Female, 16

Hi! Something I have been noticing a lot this year is that my moral compa*s is so different than everybody else’s. I believe morality is subjective. When I hear a child has been kidnapped, or someone’s been murdered or raped I feel very very little empathy. When I try to put my loved ones in the “victims” shoes it does sadden me a lot more. If I was to tell you how much emotion I feel on a scale of one to ten it would probably be a 6-7 sometimes 8 when I think of my loved ones getting hurt or if I think about animal abuse. I’d say I care a lot more about animals than I do humans. I’ve had quite a few people tell me I’m such a kind hearted girl but I just don’t see it in myself. I’ve spoken to my mum about this when I was having issues feeling empathy towards kids being molested she said it’s okay and that empathy is something I have to learn and cultivate as I get older, but the thing is I understand why those things that happen to people hurt them I really do, but I just give zero craps. I’m not on the victim’s side or the perpetrators side. Sometimes I wake up and I feel a lot more love for the world than I usually do, and sometimes i wake up hating every human for no reason. Yes some people have hurt me a little but that’s life I don’t think that it has anything to do with my absence of empathy or even emotion. I’m not a sociopath I consider myself very kind and empathetic when i need to be but I don’t feel it to the extent most people do. Can a non-fcked up person like me relate?